One thing that men of great ambition have in common with each other is that their eyes are focused on the dream. Always push forward, no matter what. This level of energy and dedication is important to actually achieve anything, but another thing men of great ambition have in common is that they tend to not see what’s right in front of them along the way.

Success is not an event, but a process. It’s a series of thousands of small choices over time that yield positive outcomes. In my mind, I know this. But in my heart, I don’t feel it. It’s a struggle to recognize that I’m making right choices, and even harder to see them paying me dividends. Does this sound familiar to you? I cannot be the only one. This post is for all the men of the world who need help with recognizing the efforts paying off in their immediate life.

I want to share a short anecdotal story: This past Christmas was the first time I was able to buy my children and my family good gifts. I did not have the money to do what I wanted. I worked low-earning jobs, lived beyond my means, and could not pull it together. It’s tough to share that, but necessary. I decided that enough was enough, and enrolled in college. I wasn’t sure if I would make it through due to personal events, but I did. I got a job upon graduation that paid me more than double what I had ever earned before. I also started a side-hustle that provided an additional source of income. Christmas came around, and I went to different stores and bought gifts like it was the most normal thing. I didn’t have to go into debt, and I wasn’t broke because of it. All bills were paid. There was food in the fridge and gas in the car. As I write this, it’s almost like I’m describing someone else’s life because that has never been mine. Except now it is. I sat on the couch and looked around my living room at all the unwrapped gifts, and I thought, “There’s the proof”. My life has changed, and I didn’t even realize it.

When you focus on the the end goal, all the steps you take to get there are fleeting. The only success is crossing the finish line. This mentality can be detrimental to actually reaching the end. Men tire, doubt creeps in, and life presents many temptations to quit. I’ve lived it for nearly a decade, and have finally seen it for what it is. Seeing the successes that come from those many small choices along the way can renew our spirit and give us the energy we need to stay the course.

Is it possible that the evidence for your successes is actually there for you to see, but because your mind is on the end goal, you can’t see them? If you think it’s a possibility, examine your life as it is. If you’ve been actively pursuing a goal, there are signs of your success. Always forward, but pay attention.

The Take-Away:

  • If you tend to live in a pattern of quitting and starting over, you are not alone.
  • Success is a series of small choices over time that yield positive results. It’s not an event.
  • Focusing on the end goal can stop of us from seeing the good things along the way.
  • The “End-Game” mentality can be detrimental. It’s easy to lose hope and quit when we don’t see the signs of movement toward our goals.
  • Pay attention for those small successes in your life to keep you inspired and moving forward. They are there if you go looking for them.